PHILOSOPHY
The values that guide our actions and the principles we promote in everything we do are simple:
Harmony
Growing up in harmony means facing life in the free expression of one's being.
Don't be afraid of not being compliant, not to like, of not being good enough, to be subjected to continuous and severe judgment of others.
It is the contrast between what we show ourselves to be and our true self claiming its freedom, which causes discomfort. And even worse, we sometimes pass these same fears on to our children.
But when we manage to become aware of the fact that we ALL have our difficulties, our uncertainties and fears, we begin to open up and live a little more serenely.
At Aikya we try to teach to appreciate the differences and recognize the beauty that each individual brings with them.
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We are individual beings but at the same time we live within a society, the bond that binds us is almost essential for our growth.
Moving in unity means seeing your neighbor not as an enemy, but rather as someone who has the potential to lend us a hand on our journey: sometimes through advice, a smile, a game, other (and this is the difficult aspect) through a fight.
The problem is that sometimes we look at things from too small a point of view… And instead it is precisely in the resolution of the conflict, as well as in helping others, that we grow and build strong bonds.
Our idea of growth is yes individual but within a group.
It is in the group that by making the other's point of view our own for a moment we are able to broaden our vision and open up to the feeling of respect.
Teaching to think with the heart
You think a child grows stronger and more confident if treated harshly?
We adults would like to live harshly? The answer is simple, vero? We know only one thing that simultaneously gives great confidence, a great strength and security… love.
Thinking from the heart means focusing on beautiful things, don't think about the quantity but about the quality of the time we spend with the children, and on the positive emotions that can arise when there is real exchange.
Educating to think with the heart is easy, just train it a little. Come? We think there really are thousands of ways and each of us is free to find his own.
A few small examples?
We try to become aware of our negative thoughts and try to replace them by focusing our attention on the thought of something beautiful.
Eliminate feelings of guilt.
We work all day and sometimes we come home to find our little one already asleep, others instead ask us to be able to play and instead we are so tired that we just want to pass out on the sofa; or we find our partner who has perhaps been busy all day taking care of the children and wants to talk while we are desperately looking for silence… all of this is normal.
Feelings of guilt only make the situation worse, everything can go well if there is understanding and above all if there are common points.
At Aikya we educate children through play and we try to pass on this simple principle to parents: play is the most important teacher a child can have. In the game we discover the nature of exchange and mutual growth. It creates a ground for paying attention to beautiful things.
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Freedom from expectations
Since we were children we have been told this is normal that is not.
It's normal for an adult to be good at history and not good at math, but for a child the same thing often just creates self-fulfilling prophecies.
Adults think their child is made a certain way, they try to find confirmation of their hypotheses, and so in a more or less conscious way we limit the spectrum of its possibilities.
For years now, mothers have been coming to us mothers at the gym telling us that their children have been advised to exercise because they lack coordination ... you make them stand with one foot raised and they fall all over the place, then you tell them that they are in the middle of the sea and they have to keep only one foot on a very small rock and you realize that they could stay in this position for several minutes…
Setting goals is right but it is not said that creating expectations is always equally correct.
In the parent-child relationship, for example, one of the most frequent problems is the difficulty in accepting the fact that children do not reflect the ideal that we had. How many times have we said I would like my child to be... become... do... And if instead we respected the unique human being that he represents a little more?
Getting an education is very important, even more is identifying and building the tools for healthy growth based on the uniqueness of that being.
Let's get used to the nuances, how beautiful a rainbow of only two colors would be?
At Aikya we teach that the rainbow is beautiful precisely because it has all the colors and if everyone wanted to remove the color they like least they would get a beautiful transparent rainbow… getting used to diversity means respect, that is, it means not to judge, and not feeling that you are being watched develops trust, serenity, safety in us and in our children.